I’m not the biggest fan of Basketball but I can definitely get wild sometimes! Especially when I’m with my Boi Patrick! We had a baller day at the Utah Jazz Game and eating at one of the most delishous places on Earth! But there is something real that happens at almost every competitive event that disappoints me. Booing.
Competitive athletes have an awesome ability to block out the noise of those around them who are booing them. I never understood why the same people who talk of having a sportsmanlike attitude are the same people who boo the opposite team when they are doing well.
It was also funny to see players complain to referees even while the next play is happening instead of setting themselves up for a successful play. There is so much attitude on the court that I feel as though it parallels life.
It can be family and it can be friends. But people in general will always put you down for the efforts that you put into life. Life can also put you down for no reason at all, like a bad call, but are you going to play the victim or will you set yourself up for success.
Are you going to listen to the crowd and give up? Or will you drown out that noise and set yourself up for success. Now just like I mentioned before in my article, “People Change” you should never expect anything from anyone, including life. Life can leave you homeless, jobless, it can be just flat out unfair. Or will you put in the work with the tools you have and see what you can do to turn your life around?
I understand that it is so much harder to not listen to people that are being negative than to lend them an open ear. The only true way to get rid of that noise is to know yourself. You need to learn how to play your own tune so you can drown out the other obnoxious noises in your life.
Now it wasn’t until recently in the last few years that I came to understand who I was. I went through religious, political and friend changes. I adjusted by learning about new things and keeping an open mind about others opinions. I tried understanding how those without the same religious views felt about my religion. I tried understanding how different cultures compared to that of the US Culture.
I came to understand what it was like to lose money and physical objects that I cared about and came to see why the meaning of each item only was as important as I mentally made it.
In essence, I learned that I was putting my happiness based on objects and the opinion of others instead of truly putting the importance on real things. Which are People. Not the opinions of people, but people.
Patrick is my Boi, both him and I are running a business. Now while we make money, that isn’t the most important thing. What is important to me is the happiness that challenging myself with a friend brings. I can’t not emphasise how much I don’t mind just making 60k a year for the rest of my life. As long as I’m selling and hustling, trying new things.
My core belief is, I should have the right to do whatever the crap I want as long as I don’t infringe on anyone else’s right to do whatever the crap they want. That is why, I personally don’t care if people are drinking alcohol, coffee, or any other kind of substance. It doesn’t to matter to me that is against the rules of my religion, all that matters to me is that it doesn’t affect me.
Same with political beliefs, I don’t care what you do, as long as you don’t infringe on mine or another person’s right to live there life.
Now while I don’t want to get political or religious on anyone, belief, desire, and the way we treat people is how we understand who we are. Those things just so happen to be the way that I came to understand who I was and what I believe.
Because I know who I am, the opinions of other people of me don’t matter. I don’t get depressed thinking that other people don’t like me. My decisions are not based upon the approval of others. I don’t need the opinion of others to succeed, I need my own desire and belief to push me. That is true self reliance.
So whatever you do, DON’T listen to the crowd and DON’T give up. Learn who you are and you will have succeeded at 90% of life.
I would love to hear your thoughts. Please leave a comment and tell me what you think! Share it with someone needs to care less about the opinions of others!